Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

6.12.08

A Madonna for the New Recession


Wonderful words, this morning (as always), on The Insomniacs Kitchen...a favorite blog of mine. Here is the post, in it's entirety:

A Much Greater Poverty
Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.
-Mother Teresa

POSTED BY THE URBAN MERMAID [EMILY LISKER] ON SATURDAY, DECEMBER 06, 2008

I've chosen a Dorothea Lange photo (via Old Picture of the Day) to illustrate our hat-tip to Emily.

Money or no, the child sits on the woman's lap carefully ensconced and softly held. There is the presence of love here. The protection of being cared for, no matter what the circumstances. The compassion that love affords, no matter where we are. A true modern Madonna.

(Perhaps this mother and child should have been the postal stamp this year: "Madonna of the Recession," whaddya think?)

Wishing you abundant blessings this weekend, and always.
To be loved and cared for, these are the greatest riches. Let's share this gift, and use our extra pennies to buy bread and milk for a child that might not have any otherwise.

Is it the year to skip the sales and shore up the local food kitchen?


21.9.08

Why Coworking is Good, or: I never could get through Ulysses.


"Ulysses" (and "Moby Dick," since we are being honest here) was the book I simply couldn't conquer as an English major. Therefore, it was a delight to find this sentence in an article which was noted in Shedworking today:

"Working from home is like living James Joyce’s Ulysses — a tiresome stream of consciousness interrupted only by procrastination."

"5 rules for Working at Home," looks wonderful--like everything else Shedworking recommends. Having worked from home for the last 18 years (well...26, if you count being a mother as working...which I suppose we all need to do), it made me laugh out loud to see the task compared to reading Ulysses. Kay Spicer is brilliant.

It's one of the reasons that I'm really looking forward to the development of the co-working movement, which will be a boon to many, including any parent who must work from home. Brad Neuberg spearheaded this, and he is marvelous; I was fortunate enough to meet him this spring at a co-working seminar at M. F. Chapman's brilliant Cubes and Crayons in Menlo Park

I would've loved co-working 25 years ago, when my husband was driving submarines around arctic waters and I was at home with, in a quick four years, three babies. All good. Now, to get back to Ulysses...


Above, a fairly typical item one might 
find 
in my work area: 
Handwoven Japanese Snow Shoes. 

I am wondering if I should start photographing and cataloging the odd items, thanks to my photo-styling days and quirky antiquephile tendencies, that dot my workspace...and then, perhaps, crate them all up...


24.5.08

SIWINY: Supposing I Was In New York... The Lucid Truth


My greatest folly, when the children were much younger (kindergarten-ish) and I could go to bed at 1:30 and get up at 5:30, for months on end (and I wondered why I fell asleep at traffic lights, with the back of the van rocking and rolling behind me...books, toys, children, noise...and still, it was a moment of rest, being at that traffic light)...anyway, back to the folly: it was to have the New York Times delivered to my doorstep (actually, driveway) long, long before it was in every Starbucks and on every screen. It was folly because, in truth, we absolutely did not have the extra $24.95 a month (or whatever it was) to spend on something so frivolous. ($24.95 used to buy a lot of pasta & canned tomatoes.) Now, please understand, news is not frivolous, but--at the time--the San Jose Mercury News was a lovely little paper (and it would get even lovelier, before bubble burst and all changed) and it cost only pennies, because we live in a tiny little burg in San Jose (which is, sort of, just down the street from San Francisco, above photo). But the New York Times was where I wanted to be, every morning, at 5:30, with my Mr. Coffee coffee and my cute husband leaving for work and the kids not quite up yet, so that there would be an hour of peace....

{Disclaimer: my kids will find the part about getting up at 5:30 a.m. very hard to believe, and even more impossible to remember (they weren't up yet, right?), but I am still married--26 years on June 5th--to the cute husband, who can provide verification.}

Anyhow, the whole reason I got into this nonsense is to tell you that, for more years than I care to remember, I have had a "to do" list of what I would be to doing if, and certainly it would be a hard act to pull off if I actually were, but just if--supposing I was in New York--what would I be doing this week? Hey. A girl can dream, right?

So, this week, I would: breeze by the Noguchi Museum to see
"Design: Isamu Kenmochi and Isamu Noguchi," especially since the exhibit closes on Sunday.

And I would run quick, like Carrie Bradshaw carrying her Manolos' (my kids will find this even harder to believe) in one hand and catching a taxi with the other, to see "The Eccentricities of a Nightingale," at the Clurman Theater, because a.) Charles Isherwood says it is, indeed, "the rare staging of a Williams play that delivered his poetry and his emotional power intact;" b.) it closes next Saturday; and c.) this is something not to be missed: "Mary Bacon's performance as Alma Winemiller, the minister's daughter with a soul fit to burst, rivals anything I saw this season for complexity, delicacy, and lucid truth." (Charles Isherwood). That's what I'm after. Lucid Truth. (Please note: I shall slip my Manolos' back on before entering the theater.)

And then (because I had all the time in the world, this being only a dream) I would swing through the Jewish Museum to see "Action/Abstraction: Pollock, De Kooning and American Art, 1940-1976" (thru Sept. 21), run to the MOMA to see "Take Your Time, Olafur Elisson" (thru June 30), after which I would--channeling Mr. Elisson's karmic quietude--do a walking meditation straight to "The Genius of Japanese Lacquer: Masterworks by Shibata Zeshin," Japan Society, thru June 15.

Does that leave me time, in my dreams to catch Mapplethorpe's Polaroids at the Whitney? OMG. I hope so.

18.5.08

What do Julie Andrews, Francis McDormand, Holly Hunter and Gene Tierney have in common?


That there's a dearth of (living) mothers in almost every Disney movie is somewhat clear (when last I looked, which was, admittedly, long, long ago). Which got me to thinking, after another delightful & quick talk with a brilliant friend (with whom I've recently had some fascinating conversations)...where (in my humble opinion) are there movie mothers that are worth watching, again and again and again? Not just sainted, non-wire-hanger-bashing mothers, but rich, thoughtful, mothers - the good, the not-so-great, and the perfectly heartwrenching?  

So, for what it's worth, here are a few good mothers to watch...and I'd love for someone else to put their two cents in, someday...please feel free: this is just a start (a decent start, I hope)...

  1. Francis McDormand in "Almost Famous" (actually, Francis McDormand in almost anything)
  2. Holly "These are our salad days" Hunter in "Raising Arizona"
  3. Every single mother (and non-single mother) in "Gosford Park"
  4. Gene Tierney in "The Ghost and Mrs. Muir" (just the thought of it makes me woozy with happiness and longing and that strange melancholy that the cinematography embodies)
  5. Julie Andrews, pre-motherhood in "The Sound of Music," skip-waltzing away from the convent in her heavenly, wooly trachtenware jacket, equally fab skirt, and sturdy shoes
  6. Ethel Merman in "There's No Business Like Show Business." (...am I remembering this right?  I had such a crush, at ten, on Donald O'Connor...can you imagine?)
  7. Holly Golightly, a.k.a. Lulamae Barnes (teenage mother to the children of Doc Golightly), in "Breakfast at Tiffany's" (whew...am so happy about this, as Audrey wasn't a mom in "Funny Face," all-time best Audrey--and with Fred, at that!--moment in my universe)
  8. AH!  Mrs. Incredible....Holly Hunter, again!
  9. God, I wish Judy Garland had been a mother in "Meet Me in St. Louis"...does it count that she sang "Under the Bamboo Tree" with her little sister?  That was sort of motherly, wasn't it?
  10. Auntie Mame. Best mother a Patrick could ever have. Just ask Agnes Gooch...



photo, above, taken whilst blasting through 
Nuremberg in the 
summer of ott seven. baby and mother 
were guests at a glorious wedding...i was simply 
a passerby with a camera, in awe of color and moment...